EP 2: The Ivory Temple

Ready for your monthly dose of Pureality? This one with Ivory is sure to hit the sweet spot 😉

Intro: Ladies and gentlemen, get ready; we're going to the club. Ivory and I will take you on a mesmerizing journey into the world of conscious choices and divine union. Listen closely as we share our serendipitous encounter with the legendary musician Sting at the Spearmint Rhino Las Vegas. Witness the magic that enfolds when powerful energies align, and explore the transformative power of Tantra, psychedelics and the beauty of divine masculine and feminine connections. Discover the truth behind the strip club world and the wisdom gained in making conscious choices. Get ready to be captivated by a spellbinding episode of Pureality. Where authenticity and reality come together to create pure Magic.

Ivory: People ask if I've ever considered the permanent jewelry. Do you know about that trend? It's like basically it's making a bracelet, putting a bracelet on somebody that they can't take off. So imagine having just a strong soldered jump ring instead of a clasp.

Lana: Oh, okay, yes. I know about this. I've seen it.

Ivory: My brain just doesn't, I'm like why? Like, why would I want that? Someone sell it to me. I have no idea why I would want a piece of jewelry that I never take off. Unless it's like a braided friendship bracelet when I was in middle school.

Lana: The only reason that I know about this is because I met a guy and I said, I like your bracelet. And he said, oh, thanks, I. Got this with my girlfriend. We did it as a commitment to each other. We're both wearing the same bracelet. Okay. And it doesn't come off. And I thought, okay that's cool. And it's pretty thin. If you were really losing your shit, you could just rip it off. But, and in that sense, as a commitment to a partner or a friend? A friend, just like you said, a friendship bracelet. A friendship bracelet. I think that I'd be into it. In that sense, yeah. But I always get really bothered having stuff on me at some point. I've been wearing this ring for a few weeks, but eventually I'm going to have to take it off because I feel trapped. Yeah. I feel... I think I just have too much connection with handcuffs not a kinky thing but handcuffs as my daddy issues and he's a four time convicted felon and I don't want any connection to the idea of metal or or anything restrictive anything on the body yeah keeping you contained even if it's on one wrist yeah I don't know if that, if anyone would make that connection or if I'm just damaged.

Ivory: Even as a jewelry designer, I don't wear, I take my jewelry off, almost as soon as I get home because I just like to be free. Yeah, exactly. But I love to wear it as armor when I go out. Oh it's like protection. I haven't really ever thought of it that way. So I want to go deeper into that.

Lana: Do you want to be Ivory?

Ivory: My government name is Brittany, and my artist, alias alchemist priestess name is Ivory. And my jewelry brand is Ostara.

Lana: That might go on the thing. So you have this rubbing. Oh, it's like ASMR? Yeah, so if you move or if you set anything down. That could be ASMR. Okay, I met you as Brittany Grace. And when you say government name obviously nobody wants a government name. So I like how you stated that. And Ivory is definitely your name then. Great. Because we don't want a government name. Even though I love my name. I love my name. And I asked my mom the other day, for the third time, probably the fourth time, even though I knew I asked her again. And I said I want an explanation of where my name came from, and she said it was a hot girl that your dad and I went to school with, and we really were attracted to her, so we named you Lana, and it's Mom, thanks, and also, really?

Ivory: Could you have gone deeper. Really? Really? Yeah. Anyway, so that's my name and I love it. I'm a hot girl. Yeah, apparently. Yeah. I'm obvious. I'm embodying some hot girl from the 80s, whatever. We I'm getting going on tangents because I didn't sleep much. A homeless man woke me up because we're in New York and the homeless man was in the bedroom. No, I'm just kidding. He wasn't, but his voice was. So we're actually in a really quiet in terms of New York, we're actually in a really quiet place. Yeah. Relatively speaking. Normal noise. Average noise in New York. And it is a lovely Thursday morning. Much earlier than I would like to be awake, but here we are. And we have been having a very interesting adventure here in New York. We've been leading some classes, workshops. We had this very fun event at Secret Soho, which will no longer exist once this podcast is released, because it is a seasonal venue, popped up by the founders of Daybreaker and a few others, Epic Space. We had a great time leading this workshop, the Sacred Twerk and Tantric lap dance. Oh yes, it was a good combo. Oh, so good. And we are also working with the Rosewood Theatre and the owner of the Rosewood Theatre, Kalin, who's an epic human.

Ivory: Epic human. Just very impressive man. If we could just model the rest of them after him. Here is the epitome of man.

Lana: It's so nice to be connected to humans like that, men and women, but especially men, because sometimes as women, we get a little sad and confused wondering where these upstanding gentlemen are.

Ivory: Where are they? But then when you see one, then you see one and you're just like, wow, an example. There is evidence. So there's gotta be more. There has to be more. They do exist. It's so exciting when you see one that exists in real life and not just in figment of your imagination. So much hope. It does. It leaves us feeling more hopeful for sure.So this may make us sound Alright, I'm just gonna be blunt. I'm gonna be just raw and real because here we are. Cuz, you know what? We can only censor ourselves so much, to be honest. If you don't like it, tune out. I'm not gonna censor myself. Let's just not.

Lana: We were swiping on Tinder because it's fun. It's fun. Entertaining. And we're alone. No one's being hurt. And we're laughing. We're laughing hard. So why not do it? Anything that inspires laughter, as long as no one's getting hurt, I think is always the wise choice in life.

Ivory: And I think just as a general rule of thumb, you just don't take that app seriously. Anyway, like, why would you? At one point, perhaps Tinder was in it's prime at the beginning of it, before... Had to have been a long time ago at this point. A long time ago. But currently, Tinder is... No one takes Tinder seriously.

Ivory: Nobody takes Tinder seriously.

Lana: It seems like a few men - I haven't I really need to close my Tinder. I feel like a bad person, because men Tinder, and I won't match with them, but they'll find me on social media or somewhere and say, I saw you on Tinder. And I really like to respond, but I've given up on it. We didn't match, so no offense, but I, please don't What are you doing here? Don't reach out if we didn't match. It's a dead end road, but I love your enthusiasm. It's great. But I have a Tinder. I have a Tinder account active right now. And I do get a lot of messages and that is a little bit frustrating. Actually, it's a good conversation. I'd love to discuss this with men as well. Just what is it that makes you want to reach out even though we didn't match? Isn't that setting yourself up for, yeah.

Ivory: What is it that makes you want to cat call on the streets? When does that ever work? Has it ever worked?

Lana: That is really interesting. That's a great conversation. Has it ever worked?

Ivory: Has it ever worked? And then also in the same vein, what is it that makes you want to send an unsolicited dick pic? I did not ask you for that. Why are you sending it to me?

Lana: Yeah, I guess they get off on it. So that could be one possible answer for that question. Yeah totally, clearly. But the cat call is very interesting to me.

Ivory: It's a similar thing. It's like a digital catcall is what they're doing. Digital catcall.

Lana: Yeah A whole other level though, because it's literally your dick. But, yeah, that's always been perplexing to me, but I respond very well, actually. I'm, I remember one circumstance in, It was in Costa Rica. Obviously, it's Costa Rica. This is an important thing to note because in a lot of latin countries, you're getting a lot of those catcalls. That's very... On the street, that's common right anywhere in South America and Mexico yeah, there's an increased…

Ivory: Also, like I lived in Harlem for five years. It was very common there. There we go

Lana: So there are certain cultures and environments where you're going to get more cat calls. I was in Costa Rica with two girlfriends, one of them grew up in LA, the other one grew up in London and we were all wearing skimpy bikinis, we were going to the beach, we're in Costa Rica, it's hot as fuck, you're barely ever wearing clothes there. And there were a large group of men, Ticos, Costa Rican men, who were catcalling and we were rather close to them. I have flashed a smile and gave them like a little acknowledgement and I was like why not my girlfriends are like, Oh, I hate this. It's so annoying. And they were just perplexed that I had condoned their behavior basically, but I'm It's like feeding a seagull. Don't you dare drop a crumb or there's going to be a swarm of them. Wow. That was maybe one of the top analogies I've ever heard in my life, hands down. Oh my god. Wow. There's that aspect of it. There's feeding the seagulls. And then there's also Thank you. Thank you for acknowledging that we are attractive women and that you're excited about us. Like, why wouldn't I acknowledge that? Yeah, I know. Thank you for being excited. Totally. I was basically saying, thank you for being excited about us.

Ivory: Because who doesn't love a compliment? Can we all just be honest? I love compliments. Some people really don't like attention. I don't fall into that category.

Lana: No, I fucking love attention. I love attention. I wanna be seen. Yeah, I wanna absolutely wanna be on a pedestal. I wanna be on a stage. Yes. I wanna be stared at. I want people to tell me how much, how cute I am and how much they love my outfit. All the time. Or my shoes, or my hair, or anything. Can't get enough. I love every compliment. Even though I don't understand the catcall, I'm still nice to them about it. I'll even give them a wave. And just give them a little positive energy, I think it's okay to feed the seagulls. Yeah. Because why not be followed around by a flock of birds? I love it. Exactly. I love it. Why not? But maybe that's what's wrong with

Lana: fuck that. Humans need to be seen. That's the thing. Humans need to be seen and we deny it and that's what turns into the distortion and then we feel isolated and then we feel objectified. We are perceiving everything from our own lens and we're deciding what it is, what it means, how we feel about it.

Ivory: Absolutely.

Lana: If you decide that everyone giving you attention is a form of love and adoration and it's good for you and it's nourishing, then fuck it, it is. Then long live the catcall.

Ivory: I'm serious. I just feel like we live in this world where things are like, So backwards sometimes where it could be worse, right? Most places are so backwards, like things are so backwards. Like it could be so much worse than a cat call. You know what I mean there's the, okay, men are objectifying women, or women, okay, I could talk about that for a long time. Women are also in some cases, objectifying men are, we're objectifying, and that's where people get bothered by the cat calls, right. Yeah, but I feel like women are beautiful and to acknowledge beauty is not objectification to me, women are going to get objectified either way, so you might as well capitalize on it, which is what we've mastered at this point. That's what I always say when people in the club, they'll be like, Oh, you're so beautiful. I'm sorry. Or saying I'm so beautiful or touching me or whatever. I'm like, I don't want to objectify you. The nice guys. Yeah, I don't want to objectify you or let me know if I'm going too far and it's no you're here. You're in this space… to please bring your positive energy with your respect. We absolutely want that and we're gonna get objectified either way. At least I'm making money on it, right?At least I'm having it serve me. This is the world we live in.

Lana: Even the objectification piece I don't really ever feel objectified? I never feel objectified. I've never felt objectified because, I don't know, I’m just comfortable with the adoration. I can receive adoration easily. And the feminine form is a work of art. It is a beautiful statue that you're observing. Yes. Which is an object. Yeah, which is an object. And I think the objectification also, there's something underneath that and it is It's male or female, either way. Someone looking at something and they're not grounded in themselves and they don't feel present with themselves and they don't have, maybe they have no spiritual connection. Maybe they're just they're objectifying because

Ivory: they're soulless. Is it some level of ownership? Is objectification some level of your beauty is something I want for me and my ego. Or still, I guess even in its essence, like if you're getting energy or entertained by a woman who's beautiful in some way, it's helping your ego. It's…

Lana: but I'm wondering, I was attempting to articulate this and it's I don't even see what the definition of objectification is. I like this. I like this. We're unfortunately not Joe Rogan yet. We don't have the guy to ask to look things up while we're speaking, but we're going to do it ourselves on the phone. And I also want to state that we didn't fully introduce

Ivory: What's my name? We didn't fully introduce Ivory here. So my official name is Brittany Grace. I never really resonated with Brittany. Ivory was born and then through, through work and... which is? Which is as a dancer. Gosh, even my name of how I got to Ivory as a dancer is a story. I've been dancing for seven years, primarily at Spearmint Rhino in Las Vegas. And Ivory, the name Ivory was born there originally. because as a jewelry designer, that's also another part of me. I'm a jewelry artist. I have a jewelry brand called Ostara. And so I had another dancer name first and it just was not working. So I chose another one. And as I was thinking about it, I was like, I want something that's powerful but delicate and also maybe a crystal or something that holds that kind of energy. And I was like I'm not going to be amethyst or something basic like that. And working at Rhino, I thought of ivory because of the Rhino tusks…